If your kids say "Moms the boss", beware

You ever see a woman that you know is a living breathing example of 1Peter 3:4.

You ever see a woman that is the opposite of 1Peter3:4 and call herself a Christian?

One that can't let go and let the husband have his place in the family as the head? Ephesians 5:22-24


You ever see a family where the husband doesn't take his place at the head?

Or a marriage where the husband doesn't seem to love his wife?

Or when a husband or wife is not committed for life?


Many women in the church today have an issue with Eph. 5-22 when the word "submit" is used. "Wait, I'm an independent woman"!

I'm going to stop right now and if you are married to one of those women, from my heart, "I'm sorry".


 ¹ Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, ² when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. ³ Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. ⁴ Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. ⁵ For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, ⁶ like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
 ⁷ Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. 

So if you are in one of those relationships and you read this and thought "aha, i'll show this to him/her" you missed the point. It's not about showing your partner how he or she can just follow this bible verse and our marriage will straighten out. It's about YOU taking your place in the family. If you are a husband, love her unconditionally whether she takes her place or not. If you are a wife, submit and respect whether he steps up to lead and deserves respect or not. If one of the parties will follow God's word in a marriage the other will soon follow. Not because I believe it but because God says it is so.


Men, step up- it's your household, it's your responsibility.
Women, step down- if you have been the one heading the household- If you don't move off the head position your husband probably will not step up because in many husband's words "It's not worth the fight". Even if that head position goes vacant for a time let it ride. I've heard it said that "I run things because he won't".... was that verse 5 or 6 or... i stopped reading too early if it's in a later verse.

Come on people. Life does not have to be a constant struggle for position in a marriage or who's the boss or avoiding each other. There is a simple solution. simple.

It's all in the Word- Obey the Word concerning your marriage and relationship and God says it will turn around.