Being a friend to your child is a good thing, but being your child's best friend can be a little bit of a problem in some cases. It may be hard to explain, but here goes. A girl (or boy) needs a mom or dad to be a figure of authority and to not necessarily fear them but respect them enough to obey and not question or test their authority. When a parent is their kids best friend instead of their parent it breaks down the structure of the family and most times creates a rebellious attitude in the kids. If a child respects and looks up to their parents, there can a great relationship as a friend but still maintaining the role of a father or mother. Getting married too young can lead to this situation because if you are married in your teenage years you will in essence 'miss out' on them because you are not a 'wild and free' kid, instead you are a responsibility plagued young married adult (or so you should be). The result of this is when the kids reach 15-18 years old, the parent(s) realize that they indeed missed out on this prime years and start to relive those magic years through their son or daughter. This not only gives the kid unspoken permission to be rebellious while still being in the parent's good graces, but also gives them the green light to run wild.
Parents: Don't live your lost years through your children. It's wrong and just not fair. They are their teenage years. Not yours!
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